My hateful world… welcome!

I have always feared sharing my opinion. Not because of being judged for having a contrary opinion but because I simply am never aware enough to support it effectively. What we say in public forums often shape others’ thoughts, makes them think otherwise or influence them. That is why it is important to be accurate in facts and information. We cannot mislead people around us just because we believe this to be a version of truth.

But right now, I am tired of feeling stifled, of having the patience to read better, listen carefully so that I can award the much-needed benefit of doubt to everything going wrong in the world. I do that. I am very generous in giving the benefit of doubt to everyone, but there are always exceptions.

This is not a political post. Well, it can become one, but I am planning to write a least edited (only for grammar) post because it is exactly all these edits and sanity checks that make us so cautious of what we truly want to fearlessly believe in and say out loud.

I do not enjoy babies and little kids so much. I don’t understand what’s the big deal, why they cannot be ugly or are always cute/ adorable. They are okay. To me they are little people who hopefully will not grow into idiots, read well, be honest and sincere. To me these qualities matter much more than being cute.

I don’t think it is important to pro-create. As humans, we have a thinking mind to decide whether we want that responsibility or not. Whether you want the burden to create a legacy. Whether bringing in another person in this world, as it is now, is fair to him/ her. Whether it is okay that you plan your future around your children taking care of you in your old age? What if they turn out to be assholes regardless of your nurturing? What if they want a job/ life far away and cannot pursue it because they already have a ‘job’ sorted out for them?

I don’t think that in this day and age, girls should be asked to move out of their own house into their husband’s, after marriage. It is simply not fair. At all.

I don’t think women are better than men. I don’t think men are better than women. I think we each have our strengths and weaknesses. They can be wonderfully combined to become a strong unit. I do not believe in one-upmanship basis gender. Except our physical definition, there are only personality attributes that make one better than the other. Anyone can be smarter, stronger, fitter, prettier… anything.

I don’t enjoy being told what to eat, when to eat. I trust myself to be as accommodating as possible to everyone around me. so please don’t tell me that Sai Baba asked everyone not eat meat on Thursdays.

I don’t like being forced in to religious traditions. I believe religion is a very private matter, how I practice it is my business only. I am religious and have faith in god or a super power that does have a role in our lives. Maybe it is because I don’t have the nerve to be responsible for every fuck up in my life and I like to say “Why god! Why me?”- even though I know it’s all my doing 😉

I resented being told that I am ‘the girl’ and that I will always have to adjust and adapt. I do not know of a single boy whose parents brainwashed them into believing this since they were born. Now adapt and adjust are the two most abhorred words in my life. I still do both but like to believe that I am being choosy about it. I am fooling myself, I know that.

I absolutely hate humour based on wives, especially by married men, most of whom are happily married to their lovely wives. “Where are you?” from a wife is nosey and insecure, from a husband is protective and caring. What the fuck!

I don’t judge abortions and pre-marital sex. Both so overrated. Abortion procedure is a medical marvel and any women undergoing it consensually should be allowed to, whether married or not. Sex,in itself, is soooo overrated and private that we shouldn’t even bother commenting on it if it’s not between you and your partner.

I detest the new broadcast regulations. Words like condom, vagina, boobs, sex, blowjobs are being considered taboo but clitoris is okay because the idiot censors didn’t know the meaning. This happened. Having five-year-old girls dance sensually on chikni chameli on national television is okay but a smoking a cigarette on screen is blasphemous.

Wow! That’s a lot of hate. Next post, about things I like.

Unfortunately, this post was one of the easiest that I have ever written. Imagine the bile stored in our systems. I have been mulling over writing something like this for a very long time. Some time ran out of time, sometime out of nerve. Over the years, I have receieved a lot of flack for having these opinions but I am now confident of what I like and don’t. This list, as we grow up (never old) can either go longer or tighter. I wish mine remains short and tight. Who wants to spend the rest of thier lives hating when there is so much wonder around us.

Leaving this with a 🙂

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An ode to Avian

There was never another place like this one
A place which is warm and droll
There were never a better lot of people
With big hearts and a good soul
There will never be another random laugh or shout on the floor
There will never be demands for chocolate cake, momos and more
There will never be a place I can call more my own
But as I leave it now, I give it to you on loan
Just for a bit, not too long
Until I make up another A.C.E song!

You know you enjoy your work when you don’t realize how three years passed. You know you enjoy your work when you dress up especially for it. You know you enjoy your work when you miss your colleagues who are on leave. You know you enjoy your work when you work at Avian Media.

These three years have seen me go through a lot of change in life- personally and professionally. I saw myself become a better worker and team player. I saw myself going from single to married. I saw myself handling a ton of responsibilities in life and at work. I saw myself cry during reviews and appraisals. I saw myself tear up when my team mates did a good job. I saw myself walking down the floor rows singing and dancing for no apparent reason. I saw myself as the center of everyone’s attention when I would tell a story. The list is endless, because I did a lot of things I never got a chance to do anywhere else.

Avian had me at Hello.

From the very first day till the very end, I have been completely smitten by Avian. But I should mention that no organization is what it is without the people in it. The people- I can fill pages about the gang there. I was lucky to have known a few of them and befriended by a lot of them.

Even though I consider myself a word wiz, this post was rather difficult to write. I wish I could capture Radheshyamji’s ever smiling welcome, Amit’s wise cracks, the conversations while waiting in front of the ladies loo, the early morning banter with Arshiya, the fight for a place for the team to eat lunch together, the sharing of many meals and recipes, the AC on AC off saga… and many more. But somethings are better remembered than said.

We didn’t have a gang or a group of girls at work. Thank god for that. Can you imagine, in an office almost full of women, there were rarely any bitchy moments. No harsh comments or judgment. In fact, I can give you one good thing I liked about each of my special friend

Would you be surprised to a see a super boss with child like finger nails? Shivalika is one of the strongest boss women I have come across. She is relentless and will not tire easy. In time, if I manage her strength and Madhuri Dixit’s appearance- I think I would become a superwoman.

The biggest reason to come to work everyday was Ragini. I suspect she was the reason for many to do so. Who would not want to be welcomed with loads of wonderful compliments each day- from nail color, to eye make up, from outfit to shoes, from reports to interactions, from documents to presentations. Ragini’s fair working ethics and balance between heart and mind was one of the most inspiring things in my life. Even though she is a month younger than I am, I hope I can one day be as good a mentor/friend as she has been to many and me.

Anu, the girl who we would all like to marry. For all the goodness in her heart and sincerity in her actions. But mostly she is like the taste of Pulse toffee- just went it gets too sweet, you are hit by an unsuspecting khatta to spice it all up.

Nikita and Mayuri, names I will take in one breathe, forever. Two kids with big dreams. Sometimes I am afraid for them but I know if they are together nothing will stop them ever.

Tanushree, meek and mild at first but she is fierce and proud. A dream team mate one can ever ask for. I want to be friends with her forever because I know she is going to places and I want to go there with her.

Eisha, the revolver rani. The girl with mad curls and even madder driving instincts. Her dry sense of humor challenged me and I am so happy she so much smarter than she lets on. It’s a good strategy.

Riticka, the girl with a fetish for shopping and all things chic. Sometimes I look at her and I wonder how one can be made so pretty, delicate, kind and nice. She reminds of Jane Bennet from Pride Prejudice. She has all her qualities.

Mansha, she gives love like there is no tomorrow. She only knows how to love with a whole heart or none at all (beware of this beauty!). I believe life will get easier for her in time, it always does for the good souls. Eventually.

Neeraj, a super women who is committed to deliver the best at work and at home. I have heard her life stories and while I don’t think I can manage any of what she does… I know she will only get better at it.

Parul and Vanshja, these two made me work hard for their friendship. Shocking they resisted me for so long and sad that I didn’t get to spend too much time with these spunky ladies. Parul makes us big girls proud with her good sense of fashion. Vanshja, my mascot of sarcasm, I do really wish I hadn’t spent so much time being afraid of her.

Deepti,this pretty little smart girl who has no idea just how wonderful she is, looking for a perfect love story which I am sure she will find in time because she deserves it. And some lucky guy deserves her as well.

Silky, I also want to have her spunk in life. This one will stop at nothing to enjoy work and life to the best, and she will take her baby princess in tow. I admire the way she has taken charge of own life and how bravely she can make decisions for herself.

Linett, you want to work with her. Fearless is one word that springs in our mind when you imagine her. Undaunted, no matter how scary the client is or how big the task is. And in her confidence you may rest yours. Also, if she likes you, she will share her delicious food with you.

Avika, you silly kitten, even she made me work so hard to be friends with her. But its all well paid off because once she pinches your arm, you know you have made it in life. I love how expressive she is, in touch with her feelings and never shies from showing them. Hahahahaha… actually I am only friends with her because her husband is such a fun person. And Karan too.

Sreya, I want to promise her that I will grow a spine before its too late. I know that will make her very happy. She speaks her mind and is not afraid to call it as it is. Bade hoke main tumhare jaise english bolna chahti hoon.

Amit Jamwal, tumse milke dil khush ho gaya. The most wanted person in Avian. Everybody wanted a piece of him. I made my move once all his previous season girlfriends left. Mouahahahah (the devil in me) the most strategic friendship I have ever planned. The aim was to have a good laugh and that we did. I don’t think I laugh as much as when I with him. It’s a good change to laugh instead making others laugh.

Martand Piploda, my prince and work husband. Hahahaha… I was privileged to see a very different version of him. He let me into his inner mind and I have to admit, funniest guy ever. Look beyond the determined and hardworking exterior and you will find this boy who really know how to enjoy life and has a plan for it.

Rahul Ghosh, looks like I have known him a long time now. He can be liked so quickly and once you are caught in his web of charm there is no letting out.

Manu Matthew, the dreamer. Actually no, he knows exactly how it is but doesn’t show it, in the off chance that it all is actually true. If people all around half even half his optimism to see the best in the rest, I am telling you, there will be peace.

Moving on to the bigger fish. (Yes, I fear no one)

Nithiya and Shobhana can never let you down. They will always have a solution to all your problems. Listen to it with a smile. Follow up till it is resolved and never leave your side. Its an honor to have been guided by them.

I was also privileged to have won a smile from Pandeyji, many times over. I think if he wasn’t so busy, we would have made great friends.

Nayyar sir hugs like papa. That I can say now. He makes me feel tiny and taken care of.

Girish is a man-boy with so much energy and spirit, he puts most 20 year olds to shame. I am lucky to have seen him in action many times, doing what he does best- talk you into things you wouldn’t even be thinking of- from hiring the a PR firm to bungee jumping for a high cliff.

Nikhil took me out for lunch and loved talking to me so much that he wouldn’t miss a chance to do so. It took a lot of courage and coordination to think grammatically correct, be witty and still make sense whenever I talked to him. All that practice has made me very good at it now.

Nitin, he is a genius magician with a Midas touch for people. He is the most chilled out CEO there can be. Else, I dare you all to find one who would let you make fun of his lunch. Of course, right after that he has the full right to a big spoon of whatever you are eating.

See I told you I can do it. I managed to give you that one special thing about a lot of special people in Avian Media. Phew! The list is long because everyone is deserving and it was easy because everyone is just as or more awesome.

But this is not good bye. Just a big thank you.Thank you everyone and wish you all an exciting life.